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Monday’s Over


It’s not that I was annoyed or fed up with hearing and seeing everything V-Day related and the blatent commercialism peering and gloating at me, but it was more about not having that one soul – that one miracle, to join hands or lips with.

There are a few bloggers out there that are going the online dating site method to find that someone unique but not having much luck so far. I did do that for a while but found it bereft of warmth and personality. Maybe that simply means that I had no real luck at it. However, many others have found it a boon and have successfully met mates of great warmth and pleasing personalities. Like anything else, maybe it’s just the luck of the draw.

It’s tough for any of us that are not willing to go to bars spewing seed money at random red dresses, or those of us who have zero interest in a Yoga/Thai cooking class, or feel awkward holding melons and cucumbers in the produce section and with a grin asking a single soccer mom for shopping tips.

Sometimes it does bother me writing about the weariness and the general blasé attitude that comes with continuing the quest of looking for love after relentless searching and restless anticipation. The nights of simply looking down at the city – not necessarily thinking about anything, but bobbing up in the consciousness every so often the thought that it would be so much easier to bear another day and night alone knowing that someone holds you close to their heart and may be looking at the moon at the same time you are.

Or, perhaps they’re wondering, and hoping, that you are thinking of them and softly smiling with eyes closed.

The day after V-Day, when all the candy was on sale at Wal-Mart, I bought fifteen dollars worth of left behind, 50-75% off, odds and ends. I especially concentrated on those boxes of candy hearts with the little sayings engraved on them and made sure that every single woman in the building received a box of them along with a hearty “Happy Valentine’s Day” cheer from me. It seemed to made them all so happy and that, in turn, made me smile.

I did manage to sneak a very small six-pack of dark chocolates to a special someone. The delivery tag said “From – ?”. I’m letting it brew. Hey, you can’t sail if you don’t at least get on the boat, right? Do you have a boat?

  1. 02/17/2011 at 2:52 PM

    How very thoughtful of you! I am sure you made their day…especially “someone.”

  2. 02/17/2011 at 3:17 PM

    Love this. Particularly the intriguing bit at the end. Ah, the importance of getting on the boat. Great metaphor.

  3. 02/17/2011 at 5:36 PM

    Thank you to the both of you StartedOver@28 and Aidan for the time it takes to comment – I appreciate it.

    I do believe that I made their day and a few told me so as well. It’s such a boost to an ego to be found that you were thought of and I was happy to be there to see their smiles when I handed over the box.

    A little intrigue at the end, yes. You never know I guess and if nothing at all comes from it, well … at least I maybe made her feel a little more thought of in a different way as well. Hopefully, I gave her something at a time she perhaps needed it. “Random acts ..” and all that.

    It’s all good.

  4. 02/17/2011 at 6:54 PM

    Aw, thanks for linking back to my story as a success 🙂 It’s taken a long road, but I got there…so I hope that proves helpful for those, like you, that are thinking of testing the waters. I too love your idea of sharing something special with ‘someone’ – I hope it works out…but at least you have stepped on the boat. Awesome!

    • 02/17/2011 at 7:13 PM

      You are entirely welcome! I know that many others will find success there as well.

      Geez – I thought of taking out ‘the boat’ saying that I made up at the last moment, but you’re the second person to comment on it. Glad I left it in.

      Thank you for commenting!

  5. 02/18/2011 at 1:28 AM

    Wow, so sweet. Yeah, I wasn’t a fan of Monday either, so you weren’t alone. But seriously, way thoughtful of you to have delivered those and kudos for going out on a limb and giving something (even secretly) to a special someone.

    Oh, online dating. Yeah, not loving it so far, but in this day and age where else do we look? Agreed, don’t want to spend my time in bars or looking for men over melons.

    • 02/18/2011 at 2:04 PM

      Thanks for thinking that it was thoughtful – you should have seen the expression of those who did receive. A few of them I just barely knew and didn’t have any interaction with. But when I gave them their box of hearts … you could almost see their hearts melt.

      What, you don’t like the idea of a handful of melons as a conversation starter either?

      Thanks for stopping by!

  6. 02/19/2011 at 8:17 PM

    What a nice gesture of you! So thoughtful and unselfish. And as for the boat … good for you for getting on it … you never know where it may sail…

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